Spanking

[Dave Gray]

This is an offshoot of another thread.

Were you spanked?  Do you/will you spank your kids?

I was not regularly spanked, but it did happen a few times.  I remember being afraid of my Dad, because he was unpredictable.  I never really knew when spanking was on the table.  In general, though, it wasn't a tool that was used very often.

I had always thought that I would spank my kids in the moment, but never in a "wait until your dad gets home" kind of way, after the fact.  Now that I have a daughter, though, I feel like I probably will not spank her at all.  My wife will, I think.  I just think that I don't want her to fear me physically and that I can be more persuasive in other ways.  Also, if I do spank her, it will be because I'm angry and I lose my temper, which I think sends the wrong message.

[Landshark]

This is an offshoot of another thread.

Were you spanked?  Do you/will you spank your kids?

I was not regularly spanked, but it did happen a few times.  I remember being afraid of my Dad, because he was unpredictable.  I never really knew when spanking was on the table.  In general, though, it wasn't a tool that was used very often.

I had always thought that I would spank my kids in the moment, but never in a "wait until your dad gets home" kind of way, after the fact.  Now that I have a daughter, though, I feel like I probably will not spank her at all.  My wife will, I think.  I just think that I don't want her to fear me physically and that I can be more persuasive in other ways.  Also, if I do spank her, it will be because I'm angry and I lose my temper, which I think sends the wrong message.

I agree with the last part of your statement.  If you spank your child, give her a moment to think about what she did, and then you cool down at the same time.  Then you discuss what she did wrong, spank her, then hug her and tell her you love her and don't want her to behave badly. 

That said, my parents spanked me, I spanked my kids, and my kids spank my grandkids.  We all know enough to know the difference between right and wrong and to respect our elders.

[Phishfan]

It really depends on what I did wrong and I feel the same way about if I had my own kids. To say you would never do soemthing (spanking in this case) is too limiting in my opinion. It needs to be on the table as a possible form of punishment I believe but it needs to be saved for the extreme offenses.

[badger6]

I agree with the last part of your statement.  If you spank your child, give her a moment to think about what she did, and then you cool down at the same time.  Then you discuss what she did wrong, spank her, then hug her and tell her you love her and don't want her to behave badly. 

That said, my parents spanked me, I spanked my kids, and my kids spank my grandkids.  We all know enough to know the difference between right and wrong and to respect our elders.

I wasn't spanked too much. 3-4 times at school and 2-3 good ass beatings at home, real good ones. The thing I think a lot of parents miss these days, mostly women though. Is that they try to be friends to the kid(s). They seem almost scared that if the discipline is TOO hard that their kids won't like or love them anymore, so they give them everything they want and allow themselves to be manipulated. Parents aren't here to be friends to their kids, they are here to raise and teach them right from wrong. Control and boundaries need to be set early and without hesitation. Unfortunately, the only think most children(most adults too)understand is pain. I saw a woman at the mall the other day and she was literally wrestling on the ground with her kid trying to get him to wear his shoes. They were both yelling and screaming at each other. That stupid bimbo was talking about "time out" and trying to bribe the little brat with a piece of candy or something. I was just standing there watching the entertainment like about 8-10 other people thinking to myself, "bitch, go straight home right now and beat that motherfuckers ass". But, no dice. She put her little "human pet" leash thingy on him and dragged his barefoot screaming ass around while she continued to shop. So sad.....

[Brian Fein]

My mom used to hit me with yardsticks.  She had one in the car and one in the house, and would smack the crap out of us if we got rowdy.

[bsfins]

I think Spanking,has more to do with the Kid....

A couple of things...My parents were divorced when I was small,and the first time I'd ever seen them in the same room (and the only time since also) was my brother's funeral.(Less than a month from my 21st birthday)  I was an Angel versus my Brother and two sisters.We were also raised different,economically,and what was right or wrong....

In school " Swats" were an option till I got in High school,My Sophomore year it was I.S.S. as punishment of choice (In-school suspension).Which I never had,but plenty of my friends did)Your name would be on a list,so you wouldn't be marked absent.You'd go to the I.S.S. room Sit in cubicle all day,and give busy work. Cathlolic school it was the ruler..


My Dad's situation was totally different from Mom's (They were generally states apart,so this wasn't like an every other weekend thing...8 weeks per summer,every other Christmas,Kidnapped by him for 18 months). Dad still loaded,and his belief was children were seen but not heard.It was a privilege to sit on the couch,you had to ask permission to sit on the couch.Like almost everything else,watching T.V.,play video games,ride my bike,play at friends house,etc.etc. It was alot like visiting the Pope,that took you places,and bought you cool shit...

Mom and Step dad were much different...My stepdad loosened my my mom up,brought her back to the real world...They were much more into real world situations,

My Dad and step mom I got...
The Belt,or the switch by step mom - Which soon as I walked out of field of view,I'd flip him off,and go find away to seek my revenge...

The most effective thing was "Nose in the corner" Usually standing for an hour or more (then I could sit),with my nose in the corner.While easy to stand/sit there and try to be pissed,and exact some sort of revenge,the boredom drained me.

My Mom and step dad
I got beat with the Belt,The wooden spoon,Numerous plastic spoons broke over my ass,yard stick...Hell one day she threatened to beat me to death with the vacuum cleaner hose,if I didn't clean my room.(My Grandparents were coming down,a whole special thing)...When I was really little and Mom would force me to church, I'd get pinched in the backside.Till I learned if I said..."OUCH..You pinched me" or "Will you stop pinching me" loud enough to cause embarrassment to Mom...My step dad was very anti-Church.Explained to Mom, he's to young to sit there and listen,Don't make him go...

My step dad used to thump me,Mom told me not to ask for anything..I'd whine,I'd get a knuckle rap on the head..not painful but I'd shut up...

My Brother when I got older scared me more....
The threat of getting the Holy shit beat out of me,and then forced Slavery into the worst job imaginable...Kept me pretty straight.Being the youngest of 4 kids, I had to be extremely Diabolical to get away with anything...My hellion older siblings had already done everything,and Mom cut me off at the pass....I was more fearful of bringing my report card to My brother than anyone...

My older Siblings punishments
When My brother was 16, he Flipped my Mom off when he left.Mom saw it.....When he came home,she stood on his couch in his room,when he walked through the door...She jumped on his back screaming and beating him ...Don't you ever Flip me off...Blah,Blah,Blah...It was a game changer,my Brother talked about it for years....

When my parents were together,They spanked my siblings,but then gave them other punishment on top of it...Go ring  trees,edge the side walks,Wash the cars,etc.

[mecadonzilla]

I'm not a proponent of spanking kids, unless they really, really deserve it.  Like in a situation where the offense is so great that a couple of smacks to the behind will underscore the gravity of the issue.  If they never get spanked, getting spanked should really get their attention.

I've only spanked my 8 year old once, and that was after she ran into a parking lot without paying any attention to the cars driving around her.  In that situation, I felt a paddling would help her to remember to not risk her life or her bottom next time.

[Fins4ever]

I was a pretty good kid. Was always into sports and a good student. However, in my early adolescence on those rare occasions...I was told to go and "pick my own switch" from a shrub on the farm. The psychological pain of picking my own switch hurt far more than the actual whipping. 

[Sunstroke]

I'm not really into spanking, especially when they charge extra for it.

...wait, what were we talking about here?

[Thundergod]

Oh yeah, my sister and I were spanked. We weren't total hell kids though, so there weren't a lot of spankings. BUT we grew up just fine, respected our parents and were pretty straight forward kids who knew what could land us a whoopin and a grounding. No timeouts, nothing to think about, none of the crap they're teaching kids today.

I've seen a TON of demon kids who look like they don't respect anyone let alone their own parents (mostly mothers). If I did have a kid, you bet there would be spankings if they were deserved. That disrespecting of parents thing wouldn't fly with me.

[masterfins]

I was only spanked once, and that was when my mom was really pissed, I can still remember it.  I did however get the soap in the mouth treatment on a couple occassions when I talked back.