Different types of scenarios.
Yes, there are differences.
But not long after the coach said, "
IF there is a bullying problem I will find it and fix it" The "team" asked the NFL to investigate. Ross could have said, "I trust Ireland and and Philban to get to the bottom of this" Rather instead he has publicly thanked Godell for sending an independent investigator. Ireland and Philiban by all appearances want Incognito back and don't take Martin's allegation all that seriously. Yet someone with more power than them has suspended Incognito. The only person who could do that is Ross.
If you are the GM of a football team and the owner has taken the responsibility of making decision for the team away from you, than the writing is on the wall that you aren't going to be the GM for much longer.
No matter how this shakes out in the end, right now Ireland is the GM in name only, and the interim GM knows more about real estate than he does football.
Also I suspect just like there is a chasm between posters on this board about what is acceptable in an NFL workplace, it exists between Ireland/Philban and Ross. Ireland and Philban have spent their entire lives in and around locker rooms. Ross is from the corporate world where the worst of the hazing is having the new guy clean the coffee pot. And he sees the world thru that lens.
Ross has hundreds if not thousands of HR people who report to him. Only one of them has ever told an employee to punch another employee. That same HR director is the only one who has ever asked a job applicant during an interview if his mother was whore. He might be the only HR director to call a customer an "asshole" I doubt this is the type of behavior the Chairman of The Related Companies, L.P. expects from an HR director.