What makes a good father?

[bsfins]

I ask this question because,Alot of people tell me..."B..You'll make a good Father"....

The thought of having Kids kind of scares the hell out of me,I mean I need the woman first...I've always felt like,It's less about my choice,and more up to the woman I'm with,I get the fun part,she get's the drag of carrying the kid for nine months....If I don't have kids,then so be it,If I do...then that's ok too....

I'm the baby of the family,My 2 older sisters had kids when I was still fairly small...and now they're having kids...scarey enough....I've never had to really do alot of baby sitting,I've not been around alot of kids....I've finally gotten over they're little Shit,Drool,and puke machines....

So what makes a person a good father,before they've ever had kids?

[Dave Gray]

I think there are lots of reasons why people say it.

It's probably most-often tied to youthfulness in responsible adults.  You seem to be involved in fun things - games, sports, etc.   Yet, you're not a derelict.  So, people assume that if you have kids, you'll be active in their lives with the same kind of things you already do.

[StL FinFan]

Most guys I know are kind of scared off by babies, unless they have their own kids.  My husband was terrified before our first was born, but he is a great dad. 

He's always been a bit of a big kid himself, not afraid to get down on the floor with the kids and play with them and be silly.

[run_to_win]

So what makes a person a good father...

Time and patience.  Spend time with your kids and be patient.

[StL FinFan]

^ that goes for moms, too.

[Phishfan]

B I have a couple people who always tell me that also. Your guess is as good as mine.

[Buddhagirl]

I have NEVER been told that I will be a good mother. I see that as a positive since I do not want children.

I think when people say that someone will be a good parent it means you're settled, rational, patient, level headed. Throw in a touch off stability and there you go.

[CF DolFan]

Being a good father, just as a mother, means being there for your kids.  Making your kids a top priority instead of an additonal burden is key to being a good parent.  It drives me crazy to see parents who think their life should not change because they have kids and the kids become just another "to do" thing they have to deal with until they can go out.

Also a pet peeve of mine is fathers who say they have to baby sit their kids.  It isn't baby sitting if it's your kids. Is called being a father.

[SportsChick]

Ohhh I have the same pet peeve and I don't even have kids! My BIL does that to my Sis all the time and it TICKS me off.

[YoFuggedaboutit]

Be there for your kids.  Even if it's from a distance, like in my case. 

I call my son all the time to see how he's doing.  When he gets in trouble in school or at home, his mother calls me and we decide on a punishment together.

I get custody of him during his spring break and all summer long, and that's our special time together.  Granted, he'll make some new friends up in my neck of the woods.

[Denver_Bronco]

When chicks say you will make a good father it means they want to bang you or are looking for a sucker to take care of their kids that their biological father doesn't take care of.

Everyone is "great father" material with OTHER people's kids because you see them, its fun and games 24/7, and then you can turn around and leave with no responsibilities.

[Defense54]

Unselfishiness.  Be ready to pass on the Dolphins game at 1:00 if he has a party or a game of his own to attend.

If your not ready to put in the time you shouldn't have a Kid. Its the toughest job on the planet and Its no 9-5er. Its 24-7, 365 days a year. Maybe for the rest of your life.   

[SportsChick]

When chicks say you will make a good father it means they want to bang you or are looking for a sucker to take care of their kids that their biological father doesn't take care of.

Everyone is "great father" material with OTHER people's kids because you see them, its fun and games 24/7, and then you can turn around and leave with no responsibilities.

I totally disagree. I think Brian will be a great father some day, I see that when we're babysitting my niece. I also know his personality and how he handles life in general. I have zero doubts that he'll be great dad. Scared shitless of a newborn, yes. but he'd get over it. (he was afraid to hold my nephew when he was a newborn)

Denver, I don't have kids, so I'm not saying this because I want Brian to be the daddy for some other dude's kids. Sorry, but I think you're WAY off the mark there

[run_to_win]

Everyone is "great father" material with OTHER people's kids because you see them, its fun and games 24/7, and then you can turn around and leave with no responsibilities.

Word.  It's easy being there during the good times.

[SCFinFan]

I have decided to never have a kid. But, I think a great dad would be a lot like my father. Someone who's not scared at the thought of punishing or disciplining a child, but at the same time will always be there for the kid to hang on to when he (the kid) needs him (the father).