Padded Bras = False advertising = stupid girl

[MaineDolFan]

I love breasts.

All sizes are welcome, apply within.

[MyGodWearsAHoodie]

Pappy,

I think what you are missing wasn't just that she didn't like her body, but how completely delusional she was.  The boy from her high school liked flat chested women.  He flirted with her.  When he saw her back at home he would tell her she looked sexy and much hotter than she does at school. She didn't believe him.  

I told her it didn't matter to me.  She didn't believe me.  She told me that every males want Dolly Parton like women.  And when boys do date smaller breasted girls it is because all the better girls turned them down and they were just settling for what they could get.  

She really believed every single man wanted women with the maximum boob size.

Maybe the boob job was a good idea, maybe not.  But she definitely needed counseling.  

[StL FinFan]

Pappy, I did not agree with her parents taking away her padded bras, but I did agree with them trying to help her self esteem first.  They probably hurt her self esteem by taking the bras away.

I am not saying every woman who has implants has trouble with them, but it can happen.  I stayed with someone the first few days after surgery and she was in a lot of pain.  Now she would tell you it wasn't bad because she was so drugged up she does not remember it.  I guess that was worse on those of us watching over her than it was on her.

[AZ Fins Fan 55]

I love breasts.

All sizes are welcome, apply within.

I am in this category myself.

I dated a girl for a little over three years who was very small chested. She was self conscious about it even though I really did not care. She never believed it when truly it did not matter to me. After we broke up she decided to get implants and when the surgery was complete I was the first person she wanted to show. I am not quite sure as to why this was but I certainly was not going to turn it down. I told her they were nice but I preferred them naturally as I am not a fan of "fake tits". She still did not believe me but her attitude and outlook on herself improved ten fold. If that is what it takes to make someone feel better about themselves then so be it. To this day we are still great friends and she does finally realize that I prefer real small ones or any size for that matter over large fake ones. My wife is rather large chested and she has talked a lot about getting them reduced and I told her I support whatever she wants as the size makes no difference to me.

[Pappy13]

I think what you are missing wasn't just that she didn't like her body, but how completely delusional she was.  The boy from her high school liked flat chested women.  He flirted with her.  When he saw her back at home he would tell her she looked sexy and much hotter than she does at school. She didn't believe him.

I'm not missing that fact, I'm just not sure which came first the chicken or the egg.  You only knew the girl as a Junior in college, after she already had issues.  She apparently confided in you that this has been an issue with her since she was in high school.  My question is was the whole issue blown WAY out of proportion by the parents and therefore made a bigger issue than it really was?  I don't think I've met a teenage girl that didn't have some issue with her looks.  Most kids as they become adults realize that it's pointless to be so preoccupied with their looks and it becomes a non-issue, but you can't tell a teenager that.  At that age, looks are so important to kids.  So did she have some deep seeded self esteem problem even before the whole padded bra issue or did she develop it when her parents forbid her to wear them?

I don't know the answer to that question, but in my opinion her parents didn't help her by sending her to counseling for it like she had some terrible problem.  A problem with self-esteem at that age is NORMAL.  As parents they should have recognized that fact and helped her deal with the issue rather than taking her for counseling.  It's not that I don't think counseling is useful, it is, but for MUCH more severe problems.  A padded bra is nothing to worry about.  It became an issue because the parents made it an issue in my humble opinion.

You see this all the time.  Parent who are so strict on their kids that they end up rebelling against them and end up having all kinds of problems.  My wife and I have always treated our kids as young adults.  They are going to make mistakes.  Your job is to teach them how to deal with those mistakes not prevent them from making them.  Forbidding her to wear the bra was the wrong approach.  Being supportive and trying to understand why she felt like she needed to wear a padded bra would have been a better approach.  Help her understand it's normal to have self-esteem issues and that she'll grow out of them.  Let her figure it out for herself, not treat her like she has a huge problem.

I realize that I may be way off base here, I'll admit that.  Perhaps she really did have this deep seeded problem with self esteem all along, I don't even know the girl, but it doesn't appear that way to me.  Her topless photos of herself sent to you with the big smile doesn't seem to indicate to me she had a self esteem issue.  Rational or not she seems to have had a problem with the size of her breasts.

[Pappy13]

Pappy, I did not agree with her parents taking away her padded bras, but I did agree with them trying to help her self esteem first.  They probably hurt her self esteem by taking the bras away.

Exactly.  That's all I'm trying to say.  The cure was worse than the disease.

[Sunstroke]

I honestly don't care what size the breast is, as long as the nipple is strong enough to hang a suit jacket on without it falling on the floor.

[badger6]

As the president of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee, it does not affect your relationship with guys. Trust.

As a card carrying fan of the itty bitty titty committee. I must say that there is no better breast than an A or B cup. Although, I did fornicate a couple times with a fully grown chick that had a chest like a 12 year old boy, that was weird as hell. She really did need some kind of artificial enhancement IMO, ha ha.

[bsmooth]

Boobs are boobs. The funny thing is how many men are plagued by the same issues over thier penis size

[MyGodWearsAHoodie]

I'm not missing that fact, I'm just not sure which came first the chicken or the egg.  

You might be right. It is quite likely that her digging in her heels in her fights with her parents about the padded bra and her arguing with the counselor about what boys like and don't like made her blind to all evidence that not every boy is that way.  We get that here when folks are so convinced they must prove to the entire world they were right about a particular player or coach.  

I am not saying I agree with the taking away of her padded bra.  But I do agree with the idea it is better to learn to accept your body than modify it.  

You only knew the girl as a Junior in college,

I gained carnal knowledge of her as a junior in college.  I knew her since the second day of freshman orientation.

[StL FinFan]

Boobs are boobs. The funny thing is how many men are plagued by the same issues over thier penis size

That made me think.  If a breast augmentation is no big deal, then what about a vasectomy?  How many of you guys just crossed your legs?

[Pappy13]

As a card carrying fan of the itty bitty titty committee. I must say that there is no better breast than an A or B cup.

I'm gonna use you as an example here Badger, don't take it personally, has nothing to do with your personal thoughts on the subject.

So why is it ok for guys to believe that one or the other (large breasts or small breasts) are attractive and not women?  Why must a woman believe that no matter what size her breast she can be just as attractive?  Is a woman having small breasts and feeling unattractive and feeling that  she would be more attacticve with large breasts automatically a self-esteem problem?  Why?  It's not like that for guys.  Some guys like that.  Why can't some women like that too?  And if they happen to be small, why not make them bigger and feel more attractive?  I don't see the problem.

[Pappy13]

That made me think.  If a breast augmentation is no big deal, then what about a vasectomy?  How many of you guys just crossed your legs?

I had a vasectomy after my 5th child.  No big deal.  Played softball 2 days later.  Never even put ice on the suckers.  Not everyone is as lucky as me, but hey surgery is surgery, right?

[MyGodWearsAHoodie]

Boobs are boobs. The funny thing is how many men are plagued by the same issues over thier penis size

Similar and different.  

For a girl the whole world know how big or how small they are.  For a boy it is a much more select group.  Plus breasts are used to attract the male.  Once the female learns the males size they are already pretty close to sealing the deal.  

But also the male's size does have a greater impact on the female's pleasure than the female size does on the male's.  

[StL FinFan]

Size doesn't matter if you know how to use it.