With the other scenario, the downside is another 10 years of stressful living, no free time, no family time, live to work until you save enough to retire.
Not sure how you got the "ten years" into the equation, because it was originally one year of the stressful job for paychecks equaling one million bucks...and the chance to keep the job. That would mean a million per year, as long as you can hack it. If I'm planning a family, I take the job, bust my ass for 5-6 years, and set my family up to be comfortable the rest of our lives.