Sounds to me like Trestman gets it.
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-11-06/sports/chi-marshall-calls-for-change-20131106_1_brandon-marshall-richie-incognito-jonathan-martinBears receiver Brandon Marshall has stayed up to speed with the details of the bullying controversy engulfing the Miami Dolphins, his former team, and issued a call for change Wednesday.
Dolphins offensive lineman Jonathan Martin left the team last week after saying he was frequently harassed by guard Richie Incognito, who has been suspended indefinitely.
Marshall was a Dolphins receiver during the 2010 and 2011 seasons and still counts Incognito as an acquaintance with whom he periodically communicated. But Marshall said Wednesday at Halas Hall that he’s sensitive and sympathetic to the feelings Martin has had that prompted his departure from the team.
“My prayers definitely are for him,” Marshall said. “It’s a serious situation. ... I wish him the best and hopefully he’s getting the care that he needs.”
Marshall spoke at length on the issue Wednesday and said he still did not know enough about what all had been said and done by Incognito to warrant his punishment. Marshall said he enjoyed playing with Incognito but has been taken aback by the allegations of things that Incognito did to Martin, including harassing text and voice messages that included racial slurs.
“I also know it’s not an isolated incident,” Marshall said. “It’s unfortunately the culture of the NFL.”
Marshall said it’s different with the Bears, where younger players are asked to “earn their stripes” but not treated disrespectfully.
“We look at rookies different,” he said. “You have to earn your stripes, earn your place on the team, earn your place in the NFL. But as far as crossing that line? Disrespecting guys? Demeaning guys? That just doesn’t happen here. Actually, Coach (Marc) Trestman did a great job of really going out of his way to make everyone feel comfortable from Day One.”
Marshall remains aware of how sensitive an issue this has become.
“Look at it from this standpoint,” Marshall said. “Take a little boy and a little girl. A little boy falls down and the first thing we say as parents is ‘Get up, shake it off. You’ll be OK. Don’t cry.’ A little girl falls down, what do we say? ‘It’s going to be OK.’ We validate their feelings. So right there from that moment, we’re teaching our men to mask their feelings, to not show their emotions. And it’s that times 100 with football players. You can’t show that your hurt, can’t show any pain. So for a guy to come into the locker room and he shows a little vulnerability, that’s a problem.
"That’s what I mean by the culture of the NFL. And that’s what we have to change. So what’s going on in Miami goes on in every locker room. But it’s time for us to start talking. Maybe have some group sessions where guys sit down and maybe talk about what’s going on off the field or what’s going on in the building and not mask everything. Because the (longer) it goes untreated, the worse it gets.”
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